Adoption Ceremony

Adoption Ceremonies....What is it and Why have one?

Rituals are an important part of any life cycle event. They validate our feelings and allow the rite of passage into a new part of our lives. Some of the occasions in which we have rituals are at birthdays, funerals, weddings, births, and for religious celebrations. Having an adoption ceremony is no different than having a ritual for any other occasion. The ceremony helps to validate our feelings and provide a sense of connectedness.

An adoption ceremony is a simple ceremony to bring together the parents and child to symbolize the joining of the new family. It is essentially a covenant and all parties stand in front of their witnesses and acknowledge the new bond between parent and child and the lifelong commitment the parents are making. Each parent takes vows to the child and the child accepts their commitments.

Adoption ceremonies are not the finalization of the adoption. (That happens in court.) The adoption ceremony is an agreement initiated by the adoptive parents and responded to by the child. The ceremony should take place early on in the placement, to symbolize family unity while the adoption is in the process of being finalized. It serves as an insurance policy to the child that Mom and Dad aren’t going to change their minds and return the child. This is especially important if you are adopting an older child.